The Emotional Side of Homosexuality
I received this Submission:
“This is just a legitimate question, no hate intended. I am genuinely curious. Why do YOU think homosexuality is wrong? Why does it matter so much to you what other people, people you have no sort of relationship with, do with their lives? Why do you care? I honestly do not understand why this is an issue. What interest of it is yours? What is honestly so wrong with two people loving each other? Please, do not tell me what the bible, or god, or your pastor says. I want to know your views. Not statistics or quotes or bible verses.”
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Though, I have already answered the intellectual side of homosexuality, I’ll take this chance to address the emotional side of homosexuality.
You see the intellectual side deals with the logical and empirical arguments that lawyer against homosexuality. However, it’s very easy to forget that there’s an emotional side - a side that most actual homosexual individuals appeal to - that also needs addressing.
And I’ll be the first to admit: from a purely emotional standpoint, there’s no good arguments against homosexuality.
How can you tell someone that what they feel is wrong? It’s an argument I’ll always lose.
I believe, then, it all hinges on the question: “WHY do they feel this way?”
You see, you and I are more than our instincts. We are so much more than our impulses.
I sincerely believe that, to reduce ourselves to these things, goes against the intrinsic, complex value of who we really are. If we are no more than our impulses and our instincts, we’re no more capable than a dog or a monkey or any other animal.
But it goes deeper than that.
Homosexuality and Same-Sex marriage makes sense if we assume that the individual is the center of the universe. That everything that I want equals the things that I need - because that’s something I decide for myself.
It’s just not true.
And truth is key here. Moral Truths are not relative. Once we realize that, it may come as a BIG, CONTRADICTORY surprise to the world when we realize that truth trumps feelings and personal choice.
You have no idea how many things I wish weren’t in the Bible! I wish I were in charge of the “Admissions” in Heaven! But it’s not MY Heaven; it’s not MY truth that matters.
Most Christians say that being “Gay is Okay,” but this is the product of a commercialized idea that God is a self-help agent, a thing to bring you peace of mind. How would someone who believes that “sin leads to unhappiness” and “salvation is having your best life now” make a good argument against homosexuality and same-sex marriage? There is simply no way of defending Christian truths within the narrative logic that (apparently) most Christians presuppose: God is there to make me happy.
I’m sorry.
It’s not like that.
Why?
Because. We. Are. NOT. Our. Feelings.
Being happy, for example, is not the ultimate purpose in life. If this is your ultimate purpose - if “all I want is to be happy” is your end argument - you are focusing on the little picture; on the finite side of our immortality.
Why do I care?
How can I not?!
Why would anyone settle for “happy” when they can know joy?
Why would anyone settle for “romance” when they can know true love?
Why would anyone settle for “tranquility” when they can have peace?
Why would anyone settle for “bravery” when they can have fortitude?
Why would anyone settle for “niceness” when they can know kindness?
Why would anyone settle for “generosity” when they can know goodness?
Why would anyone settle for “trust” when they can know faithfulness?
Why would anyone settle for mere feelings when you can develop the character to live your life to the fullest?
I am against homosexuality because it denies the truth that we are not defined by our sexual preferences. I am against homosexuality because it demeans the individual to mere impulses. I am against homosexuality because it takes feelings out of a reasonable proportion.
For someone to say that this is what they ARE…?
No.
NO ONE should define themselves as their impulses or preferences.
Our identity is explicitly in Christ.
I love how she didn’t just single out homosexuals; this is something that applies to all our ideas of a vending-machine God. Well put!
